The useless, classic dating advice of all time we’ve all heard countless times from our mothers, self-help books, and magazines is to “be yourself.” But unfortunately, this advice doesn’t work in practice. In the competitive dating world, you must generate an appealing prospect of yourself and make a strong first impression. Of course, a long-term partner will eventually discover your flaws, but should you hand someone your entire personality on a plate on the first date?
We believe it’s sexier to maintain a sense of mystery. And it’s also important to build your dating confidence to get the most out of your dates. Building dating confidence is similar to building muscle; it requires focus, endurance, and practice. You wouldn’t go to Pilates once and expect to develop flexibility and endurance, so don’t expect the same result when building your dating confidence.
You should consider the following suggestions to boost your dating confidence.
Use Some Help in Online Dating
You’re probably now thinking about how many awkward first conversations you’ve had on online dating sites. Probably a lot, right? Starting a conversation with a potential love interest online can be intimidating, but don’t worry! Have you been having trouble starting and keeping a conversation with your match? It could be a simple fix if you start using an AI-based keyboard to help you with online dating, so you’ll never have to stare at an empty text box again.
We know that many people lack the confidence to start a conversation on dating sites. An app like this recommends openers proven to work by relationship experts and dating coaches. So, it’s way more than just some generic pickup lines. You just need to upload a screenshot, so the app reads the conversation and recommends the best response. This way, you’ll get the confidence to start a conversation and respond to those awkward first questions.
Remember When You Were the Most Confident
When did you feel the most confident? Which activities do you enjoy the most? It can be dancing, telling interesting stories, or bowling. If possible, try to do some of those things on your date. If not, do something you like before your date to get into a confident mindset.
It’s also helpful to write your strengths on paper and include why someone would enjoy getting to know you. Think about positive feedback and compliments you’ve received in the past, or ask friends what they think your strengths are. Always read this list before you go out on a date, especially before the first date. It’ll boost your confidence but also remind you of the people who care about you. So, regardless of how the night ends – you are not alone. Try to focus on your positive attributes instead of worrying about certain imperfections.
Give Instagram a Break
Many people have FOMO because they negatively compare their lives to the filtered version they see on social media. However, you need to realize once and forever that these reels you see on Instagram and TikTok don’t accurately reflect what is happening behind closed doors.
Reduce your friend list to people you see in person and unfollow people who make you feel miserable (including celebrities). We all know by now that no one is as pretty as their Instagram photos or as fun as their TikTok videos. So instead, try to spend more time socializing offline. And rather than wasting time on social media, go for a walk. Do that smoothie in the morning for which you always don’t have time. Incorporating healthier habits will make you feel and look better.
Put on Something Special
There aren’t Instagram filters to make you look ten times more attractive in person, so tidying up and putting on something nice is crucial. Wearing something that makes you feel self-conscious or uncomfortable will only make you feel bad. We don’t say that you should completely change yourself to be more appealing to your date, but dressing nicely, besides boosting your confidence, shows that you care about your appearance and the date itself.
You don’t even know someone’s tastes when you first meet them, so trying to impress with your clothing will only make you feel more self-conscious. Instead, dress for yourself and put on something special that makes you feel comfortable and beautiful. It could be something hot that makes them look at you differently. Choosing something your friends have already admired is a safe bet.
You can learn to date with confidence, empowerment, and openness. Changing your mindset, improving your appearance in a way that makes you feel beautiful, and taking a break from everything that makes you feel bad can significantly impact your self-esteem. Just try to keep your heart open to love.