Weddings are a monumental life event, so it only makes sense that you want to make sure everything goes right. It’s not always that simple, though. While the will might be there, there are a lot of moving parts to keep track of, and many of these might be outside of your reach. Stressing about all of this could set you up to fail.
Even if you could, you’re just giving yourself things to worry about. This is supposed to be a day that you can enjoy and remember as being something positive for the rest of your life. You don’t want to spend the whole time stressed, but it can be difficult to know how you can avoid all of these stressors on the day.
Preparing in Advance
Leaving things until the last possible minute is a fast-track to getting stressed, so why not avoid it? Pencilling in your wedding day means that you have a lot of time beforehand to start getting everything sorted. It can be tempting to get complacent if there are plenty of months (or even years) before the big day. While it’s okay to relax, getting everything out of the way early means you can simply look forward to the wedding.
For example, once you know the date, you can begin to arrange and correspond with the guests, giving them as much notice as possible. This also gives you time to find your perfect wedding dress, instead of struggling with no time to spare.
Not Letting Others Ruin it for You
Part of the reason it might feel as though there are many reasons to be stressed is that there are many people attending your wedding who are all individually their own moving parts, who you want to ensure don’t take the day off the rails. It’s important to remember that these are people who you invited because you care about them and them about you. They will likely understand that it’s your day. More importantly than that, however, it’s good to accept that everything doesn’t need to go to plan. Learning to just go with the flow can save you a lot of stress, and might provide you with a positive attitude going forward. Additionally, it might provide you with some funny memories that you would otherwise just find stressful.
Separate Your Reception from Your Ceremony
In order to truly mark this difference in your mind, however, you might find that the best course of action is to break up the giant event into a couple of more manageable instances. The ceremony can be something that as few people as possible attend to minimise the chance of something going wrong. Alternatively, you can separate the events by family and friends, knowing that you’ll be able to simply relax and have fun with your friends, while your family can be there for the most important bit.
These are simply suggestions and are there to make you realize how many options you have at your disposal. This is your wedding day, and it can take any form that you like.