See a sex therapist
So what does a sex therapist do exactly? A sex therapist, just like any other physiotherapist, will treat your condition by taking you and your partner through any worries, experiences, and feelings you may be harboring towards sex. You can work together with a therapist to help you develop ways to improve your sex life. For some couples, being quarantined together means a lot of sex and physical intimacy, while for others, the added stress strains their sex lives. If you notice your relationship is suffering from sexual drought, especially during the quarantine, seek support from an experienced sex therapist- this could be a first step to keeping the spark alive in your relationship or marriage.
Make intimacy a top priority
The best time to prioritize intimacy is during the quarantine. Not only will this boost your mood, but it will also make your physical connection stronger. During difficult life moments such as pandemics, the strain can be put on relationships due to increased stress. When you notice you’re emotionally pulling away from your partner when stressed, ensure you always choose connection. Prioritize physical connections by openly talking about what you prefer during sex and explaining to your partner how it helps you feel connected to them. Discuss your desired styles, your brakes, and accelerators when it comes to desire. This is the best time to keep sex a priority because it helps your body release the feel-good hormone- oxytocin.
Openly talk about what you prefer and want
Intimacy is one of the most important aspects of a successful relationship. It’s important to feel connected to your partner by openly talking about your wants and needs. These conversations should be about your physical and emotional needs. Don’t just assume that your partner knows what to do and what you like- they don’t read minds. What matters is that you continuously communicate with your partner and ensure you are on the same page. If you feel that a need or want isn’t being satisfied by your partner, it’s essential to talk about it no matter how awkward it is.
Learn your partner’s love language
Leaning your better half’s love language is one of the best ways to keep the spark alive in your relationship. People show and express love through; acts of service, physical touch, spending quality time, words of affirmation, and receiving gifts. You can take a quiz and find out which is your partner’s love language. Come up with ways to change and adapt to express affection in ways that will satisfy both you and your partner.
Try new things together
Making new memories and spending time together is among the best ways to strengthen your bond. Even during quarantine, you can set aside some time and share certain activities- make a meal together, have a date night, play some games, and try new things in bed. You always have to try to keep the relationship fresh, even in the same environment.
Following the above five steps can be the key to keeping the excitement and romance in your relationship. With a little creativity and dedication, you can both make your emotional and physical intimacy a priority, especially when you spend every waking hour together during the quarantine.