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Rose
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 Posted: Wed May 02, 2007 3:08 pm Post subject: I’m a real person! |
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Pure Essence
Joined: Mar 17, 2004
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Location: Canada Ontario
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The internet can be a wonderful medium, but it can also entrap you into this self absorbed web where people can be anything they want to be. I mean would people say half the harsh things to someone face that they do on the net? Of course they wouldn't, but on the net people give little thought to people's feelings.
Online it is hard to really find someone to be there for you because in the end it’s easier to log off then see that the person confining in you is really hurting. I hear so many accuses that this is just fantasy, that the cyber world is not real, but we are real people behind the computer and our feelings can get hurt.
I once thought that it was just offline that people took advantage of you, but I quickly learned that they will online too.
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Turtle Power
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yes some people can take advantage of people online and not give one thought as to who they might be hurting which is so wrong I try and treat people with respect on and offline
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Monkey Boy
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Very true... people think the internet can take away acountability and responsibility. and what do many grown ups do when you take away responsibility, they act like kids! It sucks, and I'm sorry that people don't remember the person behind the name.
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Rose
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| Posted: Wed May 09, 2007 3:35 pm Post subject: |
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Pure Essence
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Sully
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| Posted: Fri May 11, 2007 10:23 pm Post subject: |
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I think that some people on the internet are like car drivers. Some drivers have a complete personality change the instant they get behind the wheel. They tend to feel that the glass and steel enclosing them protects them in some way, and become very rude to fellow drivers.
Some people on the internet become rude because they feel they are protected by cyberspace...
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Smitty
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Mr. Winkle
Joined: May 27, 2006
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I have witnessed many people's thoughts or responses on a number of sites and the way they talk to or about people can be real crass. Just reading the comments section after the reviews of this past season's American Idol will show how harsh people can be. I wonder if it bother's them to say the things they do.Would they say the same things to the person face to face. Written words do have an effect on people, good and bad/
On the positive side it has been a great way to meet people from all over the world and share thoughts and ideas and build new relatioships. I believe many of these to be honest encounters. Some people find it easier to be themselves and to talk more openly when not being face to face for one reason or another.
Can you honestly tell who is truthful or not? maybe not all the time, but that is where a certain abmount of trust and faith is needed. |
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Theolinda
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| Posted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 9:40 am Post subject: I Am A Real Person |
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I guess I have been one of the lucky ones,in the years that I have been on the internet I have only come across one very rude comment aimed at me but that was on poets.com ( can I say that Rose?) and there were always terrible,nasty accusations and pure meaness on that site said that I am sure would never have left their mouthes had they all been face to face with each other. On the other hand,I have developed some friendships on the internet that are as dear to me as any friends that I see and talk to all the time.
I think anyone that is rude on the internet is also rude as a person and those kind of people I don't need in my life.Just my opinion here.Theolinda |
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Sheri1969
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I totally agree with you Rose. I was once part of an online support group for anxiety and depression. And from day one, I was slammed, bashed and made fun of. This was supposed to be a place of support and the people who commonly visted there would bash me every time I went in. After I year, I banned the site from my computer so as not to go back to where I was being hurt. I wonder, as well, if half the things said in that chatroom would ever be said in a face to face conversation. Internet is a good place to be a bully because like you said, they can just log off. I have not been to that site in about 3-4 months.
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Smitty
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Mr. Winkle
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"Make sure brain is engaged before opening mouth" This was on a plaque we had hanging in our kitchen when I was growing up.
The internet has made it all to easy to forget the first part and just open your mouth and spew whatever on your screen.
I've noticed that unrespectful speach has become more and more prevalent in many areas of communication. Where has our society's conscience gone?
Rudness, lies, deceit and reckless behavior is running amok.
Well, take a step to one side and let it go by and be careful not to get caught in it.
I still beleive there are more good people on line than not.
You guys seem to be pretty nice. 
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| Posted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 1:50 pm Post subject: I agree, but... |
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| I totally agree. Mean people suck. There is no reason in the world to spew forth anger or hatred toward others. On the other hand, if everyone is overly concerned with not hurting anyone's feelings, how do we grow? Do we not tell someone when they could do a bit better, or take constructive critisim(totally spelled that wrong) from others without thinking they are immediately evil? Uncalled for rudeness is always unacceptable, but I do not believe that we should always hold our tongues at the expence of growth. If we are not growing and moving forward, we are left behind. Again, mean people suck, constructive criticism (ha! used the dictionary) is quite another thing. I am sorry for who ever was hurtful to you Rose. I know that they were not trying (probably, as I dont' know what was said) to help you grow, but were indeed mean suckers. So I am not talking about you, I am just concerned that I may be misunderstood one day, and I couldn't handle that very well, esspecially if my intentions were good. |
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Rose
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Pure Essence
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| Posted: Fri Oct 19, 2007 7:11 am Post subject: I was certain of that |
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| By the way you expressed yourself, I was certain that someone had been unnecessarily hurtful. That's aweful. I guess I am just shy about giving others constructive criticism because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. When is it ok to give it, when do we just say good job and move on? I don't want to hurt anyone, and it would really upset me if I thought I had, but then I want to be helpful too, not just pat someone on the head and say good job when maybe I could help. ARGH! It's frustrating. |
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| Posted: Fri Oct 19, 2007 7:49 am Post subject: I'm a real person |
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| In life we must take extra care to treat others as we like to be treated ourselves, those that do good people, those that don't still good people but needing more educating. Not all good at everything, but number one rule never hurt feelings of others else hurt comes back to you and war starts. Lovely site full good people. |
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