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Rose
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 Posted: Mon Dec 11, 2006 5:40 pm Post subject: Why are people are so ungrateful? |
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Pure Essence
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Location: Canada Ontario
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pebbles
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| Posted: Tue Dec 12, 2006 6:53 am Post subject: Ungratefulness |
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Boy Genius
Joined: Dec 01, 2005
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Location: Massachusetts
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Rose this is my view that I posted on your blog.
This is a tough question and I think is best anwered through our own eyes after we take a good hard long look at ourselves. We are all a little guilty of ungratefulness in one way or another. We chose to pick at anothers faults because we actually see them. None of us are perfect and if we were then there would be no need for questions such as this. I have no answer to eradicate ungratefulness but we can all ease it a little by thanking the Good Lord each morning for the gift of life. Thank You for listening to me and may God Bless You All, Paul
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PS. We must all take a good hard long look at ourselves. An open mind can open many doors but a closed mind can leave us blind. |
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Theolinda
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| Posted: Tue May 01, 2007 7:40 pm Post subject: ungrateful people |
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Enjoying Life
Joined: Jul 29, 2006
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Location: Indiana
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| Rose,I was raised by a good,loving Mother that taught my sisters and I to be grateful for all good things. I think upbringing has so much to do with this sad question. |
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Theolinda
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| Posted: Tue May 01, 2007 7:44 pm Post subject: ungrateful people |
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Enjoying Life
Joined: Jul 29, 2006
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Rose,I was raised by a good,loving Mother that taught my sisters and I to be grateful for all good things,our right to go to the church of our choice, friendship,a place to call home,a warm bed in winter and a kind word to others , to be grateful for who I am and not someone that just does not know what the word means. I think upbringing has so much to do with this sad question.  |
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Sheri1969
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| Posted: Sat Jun 23, 2007 9:53 pm Post subject: |
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Women of Faith
Joined: Nov 30, 2005
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Location: Ontario Canada
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I believe it starts at home as well. If your parents were like mine, where dad worked to earn the money, mom stayed home to keep house and look after my brother and I, then you have had a good childhood. We were disciplined when we were wrong and we don't regret those times NOW.  We were taught to respect elders, give up our seats on the bus, which I still do, and to be polite and giving.
If however you were brought up like my cousin Kim in a home where the mother was physically abused and likely more, you wind up like her: drugs, pristitute, alcoholic, being fired from jobs...etc. Then you have another child (two altogether) and don't bother raising them. My 2nd cousin Falon, is a result of Kim. Now she has followed step by step in her mom's footsteps and also has two children of two fathers and has had a minimum of 8 abortions.
So I really think it depends on how you were raised in the home and what you saw and heard everyday. My parents always told us they loved us. I don't know about the other family. I tell my aunt I love her and she doesn't know how to respond because she has put up with "Idiot's) as she call him, abuse so long.
Just a personal look from within family lines.
Sheri1969
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Honorary Crew
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| It is sad to think that so many people are so ungrateful, I'm myself aren't, because my parents just raised me to be grateful for every single minute we have. But it is a great question with too many answers. There are people that are grateful for money and aren't grateful for their lives, some the other way around, theré just no right or wrong answer, there just too many answers...... |
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Cparker
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Monkey Boy
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Can you teach someone to be truely grateful? Or is it something that we can never really understand until we feel it for ourselves.
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Theolinda
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| Posted: Wed Jun 27, 2007 9:28 pm Post subject: ungrateful |
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Enjoying Life
Joined: Jul 29, 2006
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Location: Indiana
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You know I used to think that with the right upbringing being grateful would come naturally, I am of a different opinion of that now! My husband only has his Mother,2 aunts ( one never married 96, the other married ,no children, 93) and his three children for his family,plus me.These ladies were brought up in a good home with manners( ?) and a belief in the Lord but in the last 7 weeks I have seen a whole new side to the 96 yr. old aunt. My husband does all the running for her, shopping, banking, etc. and I have cooked meals everyday delivering them to her and my mother in law. The other aunt lived in another town.I have turned my laundry room into a 24 hr. laundramat with delivery service. I have not been offered a penny to help out with food or gas and can count the times I was told thank you on my hand! It is like we are expected to do all this and she is about as ungrateful as anyone I have ever met. Even my mother in law is ashamed of her and has said she wasn't raised that way.
I am grateful for every breath I take, every smile I recieve and for all good in this world,thank God, I know the difference. |
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Smitty
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Mr. Winkle
Joined: May 27, 2006
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Location: Bellbrook, Ohio
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I know of people who were brought up in loving homes and were taught how to be respectful and grateful. Some grew up showing those qualities and some did not. Go figure. But parents are only a small part of the equation. Friends, peers, schools, churches, jobs, media, advertizing...name it, they have all contributed to each person's personality.
In truth I think it is because we just have too much stuff! We have become consumed by our own progression and to an extent we have become numb to what we have.
Think about what it would be like if every single computer and cell phone stopped working. Now go study people who live each day without that stuff and compare their gratiousness with ours.
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| Posted: Thu Jun 28, 2007 5:14 am Post subject: |
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| I feel that we don't recognise ungratefulness in ourselves until it is pointed out to us, then I hope that it's a wake up call and we act on it, I'm sure we have all been guilty at some time or other. I agree that being raised in a positive way with all the right manners etc etc certainly gives the best start, but as we all know some people aren't that lucky and that is a hard learning curve. |
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Theolinda
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| Posted: Thu Jun 28, 2007 10:17 am Post subject: ungrateful |
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Enjoying Life
Joined: Jul 29, 2006
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| I think you have made a very valid point Smitty, if I already have more than I can use or play with, drive or peddle without once saying thanks or expressing pure pleasure, what's the big deal. It has to start at home---please, thank you is where it starts. I agree with Lark,there are many families that don't understand this or are ignorant of etiquette. What a shame people can't learn by example. We are having another free clothing, furniture, kitchen items,etc. give-a-way at the church this Saturday and I can tell you this, I have never worked one but that not one person walked away without expressing gratitude.Then again the young man down the road from us TOLD his dad he needed a new truck, not a used truck, a NEW truck! This young man has never been told no to anything he has asked for and I have never heard the words" thank you" come out of his mouth. Yes, he got the truck and acted like it was his right to have it, no worry about Mom and Dad paying for it. Who is at fault here? Matt or his parents? I guess we will never solve this but it sure is nice to be aknowledged one way or another. |
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Cparker
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Monkey Boy
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How does one feel gratefulness? Why do we feel gratefulness? Why can't we be grateful for everything all the time?
I remember a moment when I could feel the true miraculous nature of just existence itself, but then that moment passed, my attention was swept away by habit and identification and lost among a myriad of other things.
Can we ever be truely grateful for what we have without it being taken away?
When teaching a child to be grateful, can we just tell them, "Be grateful." What would that achieve? We have to show them what gratefulness is, why it is needed, how it can lead to a greater respect for life and the people/things around you, why that respect can lead to a better and more fulfilling life.
But then we are not whole, one part of us my be grateful, but another comes along wanting a hamburger and thats that.
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Theolinda
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| Posted: Fri Jun 29, 2007 12:01 pm Post subject: ungrateful |
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Enjoying Life
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| Bravo, I think you have hit the nail on the head!! I am on my way to the nursing home now to check on our ladies, want to know what the word grateful means? Try asking some of the residents at the nursing homes where you live and be prepared for the answers!! |
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