Have You Forgotten Him

May Peace be your gift at Christmas and your blessing all year through! ~Author Unknown

Christmas used to be my favorite holiday as a child. I loved everything about it, the decorations, food, carols, family and of course, presents. But as I became an adult, I found myself disappointed with the holidays. The true meaning of Christmas was somehow lost.

Somewhere the joyous day that I remembered as a child was traded for a big commercialized nightmare. Jesus had been forgotten. No room in the inn has been replaced with 'sold out' signs. Society has taken Christ out of Christmas. I remember when it was a day of giving, prayer, kindness, and helping those less fortunate. But the horrible reality is Santa has become the only symbol of Christmas.

Children are literally bombarded with commercials during the holidays. Stores are packed with frantic Christmas shoppers and Jesus has somehow been lost in the chase for the perfect Christmas gift. A 2003 survey by Leger Marketing indicates that each individual Canadian will spend an average of $575 on Christmas. According to The Center for a New American Dream (http://www.newdream.org/) the amount of money an average American planned to spend on holiday gifts in 2001 was $1,042.

It's your story, and it's my story and everywhere that we turn, Christmas comes with a price tag. Good grief Charlie Brown, I believe you were right in your lament about Christmas. Society has sure changed since a Charlie Brown's Christmas aired on Television.

Even the Grinch who stole Christmas learned a valuable lesson - that Christmas is something much more that presents.

Though Children may be "bombarded," with the influence to want things, leading by example is one way that we can teach them the true meaning of Christmas. Your child most likely has no idea what this Holiday is about and as an adult, you have most likely forgotten yourself.

Here are some ways you can teach your children the true meaning of Christmas.

Have your children go through their old toys and clothes, and what does not fit anymore, donate to the annual toy drive.

As you snuggle down in your warm bed tonight, remember that many people are homeless. Buy canned goods and other nonperishable items and deliver them to your local food bank. You can also help the less fortunate people of your community this holiday season by volunteering at a soup kitchen.

Take a basket of homemade bake goods to a senior.

Engage your children in activities that demonstrate the true meaning of Christmas.

Visit the elderly in a nursing home

 If you have young children - teach them that Santa only brings one gift as he has so many other children to bring to. By doing this, you have already begun to teach your child limits. For teens, let them know what is within your budget and what isn't.

Before giving gifts this Christmas visit buynothingchristmas.org. Buy Nothing Christmas was founded by Canadian Mennonites to combat North American consumerism and needless spending.

Do you ever feel that your friends and family don't really need the gifts you give them? Then Buy gifts for the world's poor in their name through Tear's Really Useful Gift Catalogue: < http://www.tear.org.au/giftcatalogue/index.shtml>  Attend church with your children.

Give a gift to World Vision this Holiday < http://www.worldvision.ca>, donate to The World Wildlife Fund < http://www.wwf.ca> , plant a greener tomorrow < http://www.evergreen.ca >, Support international fair trade by purchasing handicrafts at Ten Thousand Villages < http://www.tenthousandvillages.com >

By teaching our children that is more important to give than receive, we are teaching them the true meaning of Christmas.

Is Christmas just about presents and decorations or is there something that we are missing? What do I want for Christmas? I want for the season's blessing to reach far and beyond the pretty presents wrapped with a bow and glowing with tiny lights, which are under your tree. I want peace on earth, goodwill to all and I want Christ put back into Christmas.

About the author: Rose DesRochers  is the founder of http://www.todays-woman.net - a social network for women