Posted on Sunday, November 28 @ 23:00:19 CST | Topic: Personal
by Rose DesRochers
When do we start taking responsibility for our own actions? It appears that we no longer own our actions. Owning our actions involves taking personal responsibility for what we do. Why is it that when something goes wrong, we need some place else to lay the blame? Part of being a mature, responsible adult is knowing that when we make a decision in life, we are responsible for the outcome, not someone else.
Let's look at the following examples:
Your electricity gets turned off because you didn't pay the bill. Do you
blame the mail man for not bringing the bill? Do you blame the electrical
company, because you didn't receive the bill? You knew the bill was due. You pay
it every month, don't you? It comes down to responsibility.
You join a website and the administrator bans you for breaking the terms of
service. You blame the administrator? Why? You knew the rules of the website
upon joining and had you not known the rules, you should have prepared yourself
better by reading them.
Your son gets suspended from school for fighting, drinking and drugs. You don't
take responsibility as the parent. You blame the child. Well, don't family
values start at home? It is the rules that you set down and enforce that count.
When do we start taking responsibilities for our lives? We all have a
responsibility to pay our bills, go to work, follow the rules and bring up our
families within societal norms.
It is really unfortunate that we seem to be raising a generation of children
that don't take responsibility for their actions either. They blame their
friends, they blame their teachers, and they blame everyone around them, but
never themselves.
When you feel you are mistreated, why is it that you just can't seem to let go
of it, get over it and move on with your life? If you feel someone has wronged
you and doesn't want to own up to the fact that they have mistreated you, then
there isn't much that you can do about it. You need to accept that the person
isn't going to see any wrongdoing on his/her part; pick up your bruised ego and
move on.
When do we learn as adults to be responsible for our own actions? When do we
start living with the consequences of our decisions? Let go of blaming and being
a victim. It serves no one. It sure doesn't help you. Has not excepting
responsibility for your actions made you happy? It is time to admit your
mistakes rather than blame someone else.
Being a responsible adult means that you accept credit when you do the right
thing and accept correction when someone tells you that you have made a wrong
choice in your life.
We're adults here and we want to be treated as such unless it's not in our favor
and then we want to blame someone else, anyone but ourselves.
I think it is time each of us assumed responsibility in life, by being liable
for our actions and taking ownership of them. Please for goodness sake, stop
making excuses for your life. When you have done wrong, admit to your mistakes
and then move on.
Rose DesRochers is the administrator of
Today's Writing Community, an online community for poets.
