Moms Can Live For Ever--Respect For Your Mother, Dead or Alive and No Matter Wha

by Steve Kovacs

My mother died about two years ago from pancreatic cancer. She apparently had it for a few years before the cancer was found. She died within six months of being diagnosed. I was able to finagle the Cleveland Clinic affiliate hospital where she went for some treatment to keep her comfortable in the hospital until her death. I did not want to move her around to another facility or even to a local, albeit highly respected hospice center. The personalized hospital care was second to none and I made it my goal in life to keep her in the fine hands of the doctors and nurses there. I could hardly believe that I was able to keep her there for over a month after she was referred to hospice, but I did.<

While at the hospital she was quite coherent up until the very end and was braver than I would have been. She knew she was dying and thank God she had many family visitors. I was there every day as was my wife. One night at home I wrote a letter to my mother that I asked my wife to read to her the next day. I won’t go through the fine details but suffice to say it was a page in length and basically said that when she dies she is leaving much to the world.

My mother got married at 17, was a simple woman with a high school education, and hardly worked much in her life other than being a house-wife and home-maker. So, when my wife read the first part of the letter to her she was surprised that she could leave much of anything to the world.

The letter went on and said everything I do that is positive from my teaching, radio shows, and writing; where I sincerely convey that anyone can be whatever they want in life and that life can be managed and enjoyed no matter who someone is, came directly from her. The letter explained that she told and showed me these truths in life. Furthermore, it said that everyone I touch and help to go on to be a better, happier, more whole person, really comes from her. That she conveyed it to me and I convey it to others. So, when I make a positive difference in someone’s life, in essence it stems from her. She taught and showed me good, how to succeed, what is important, and that everyone is capable and equal.

I now easily know these life truths and know them directly from her lighting the fire in my soul. The letter explained that when I successfully convey these truths to others she lives on in them and also in the others they may touch themselves and therefore, she will never truly die.

My wife told me that my mom would ask her to read the letter to her every now and then and she’d usually just silently listen. She never asked me about it. Some things we did not have to use words to convey, we were beyond much of that in the hospital. I believe the letter simply helped her realize her impact on the world.

I meant everything I wrote in the letter. Every day when I do things that help folk, I remember that it is her direction and her lighting a spark in me that started it. I will never let her down by not giving my all to those who I teach and direct.

So, happy Mothers Day to my mom wherever her spirit may be. In the same breath, let me sincerely say happy Mothers Day to your mom, whether living or deceased. I convey my respect to your mother whether she is or was the greatest mom in the world or whether she struggled to help herself and her family and possibly did not do a great job for you. Moms try their best. Sometimes it works out well as in my case and sometimes moms have issues that get in the way of being a good mother. Nevertheless, on this Mothers Day, all moms deserve my respect and will get it. Happy Mothers Day to them all!

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Steve Kovacs is the author of Protect Yourself: The Simple Keys Women Need to be Safe and Secure. He is the host of the Internet Radio Talk Show, The Kovacs Perspective http://www.thekovacsperspective.com/ where he interviews experts in various fields, geared to help and inform. Steve also does on-line current events and general information audio commentary as well.

Steve's background is in law enforcement, security, investigations and teaching. Contact Steve any time at:info@thekovacsperspective.com