Posted on Saturday, April 23 @ 12:44:15 CDT | Topic: Personal
It's Mother's Day in heaven, and I miss my mother. I wonder if she knows?
How do we face a day set aside for mothers when the woman who brought us into
this world has been taken from this world? If you ask those who have already
been down this road, they will tell you that it is a very lonely time. For each
of you that will be glowing with smiles, shopping for your mother, and taking
her out to your favorite restaurant, there will be those of us whose heart is
aching as we remember the last moments spent with our mothers.
If you are missing your mother this Mother's Day, don't keep these emotions
bottled up inside you. Write a special essay or poem and dedicate it to the
memory of your mother. Share the memories of your special times spent with your
mother with family and friends. Pull out old photographs, or look at a
videotape of your mother. Every year during the holidays, I light a candle in
memory of my mom. Go out and buy yourself a rose bush and plant it in your
flower bed. Each year as summer brings back the birth of roses; your mother's
memory will re-bloom in the beauty of those roses.
My mother always loved roses. She and my father would grow them in the garden
and all our neighbors would remark on the beauty of those roses. During my
mother's illness, I often took her roses clipped from the rose bush in my yard
to the nursing home. When winter rolls around I am saddened that my mother is
now gone, but just as winter took her, the first spring bloom of those roses
brings her home.
So this Mother's Day, I will delight in the beauty of roses.
This Mother's Day, allow yourself to feel the love and joy of your children. You
are not betraying your mother by the feeling of happiness. Your mother would
want you to be happy on this day. Remember her laughter. Grief is normal, and
there is no easy way to deal with it. Close your eyes and remember your
childhood and the happy times that you spent with your mother. Remember the
talks and the wisdom she shared, and even remember the fights that you both had
when you didn't quite see eye to eye.
Your mother is forever with you. Though there is an empty chair where she use to
sit, in your heart she will forever be seated. This Mother's Day, rejoice and
smile. Your Mother gave you life, and with that life she taught you many
things. The one thing she may not have taught you is how to say goodbye when
her time on earth was over. Death is just the passage through a door. It is from
one room to the next and from this life to eternal life. Right through the
clouds is where your mother is. She is in the beauty of roses that bloom.
Remember your mother this Mother's Day. Mourn in her death, but rejoice in her
rebirth. I will never be able to write anything that matches the love my mother
had for me, but may my love for her be found within the wisdom of the words that
I share with all of you this Mother's Day.
1-800, I'm calling Heaven's operator. Please patch through a call to our mothers
and wish them a Happy Mother's Day from their children here on earth.
Rose wears many hats. She's a wife, mother, respite worker, proud shih-tzu
owner, blogger, published poet, freelance writer, as well as a product reviewer
and found of Today's Woman.
