Backbiting Gossiping Ankle Biters
Date: Friday, July 22 @ 22:12:37 EDT
Topic: Articles
by Rose DesRochers
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Don't always believe everything you hear. How
many times have you heard that
saying in your life? Just because someone said
something negative about you does not mean that people actually believed it. People will talk
negatively about you because they can.
Those who gossip and belittle you live for this kind
of drama. Every time
that they say something negative about you, they are just pointing out
their
own faults. Everyone has an opinion. Opinions are like assholes, everyone's got
one. Just because someone has an opinion of you, it does not mean that it has
any
value. I have found that people will talk negative about you
just for the sake of talk. I’ve
found people will say things about you based
upon what they would like to be true, not on the
facts.
Don't play their childish games. Turn their negativity into positive energy.
Ignore their claims. If you allow other opinions to damage your life, then you
are
allowing them to control your life. Don't let negative people who talk
gossip keep you from
your dreams. You don't need their approval.
If you were more confident in yourself,
it would not matter at all what
others said about you. I have had some pretty bizarre things
said about me
and they only make me laugh. When you flush those negative people out of
your life , you'll have the ability to spend more time improving your life.
Isn't it funny how the ones who dislike you the most, spend their every
free
moment talking about you. If they hated you so much, why is it that they
create so much
attention towards you. You would think if they didn't like you
that they would avoid you at
all cost and move on. But they can't and they
actually think that they are getting to you.
When the truth is that you are likely getting to them, more than they would
like to admit. It
is a matter of jealousy and controlling. They need someone to
blame for their problems.
Problems arise when you allow them to have power over
you. They must always have that last
word. When you have what it takes to
succeed in life and they don't, it creates jealousy.
When they learn that they
can't control you, it creates anger.
People like this
attract more of their type and soon you have a group
of losers with nothing better to do,
than sit around and put you down.
Though most of the things they say may be mean spirited,
you'll have a group
like them who will believe it and then you'll have the group of folks
who sit
back quietly and say nothing. They say nothing because it is obvious that what
they are doing is nothing more than a witch hunt.
Are we adults or we still in
high school? This kind of backbiting is
something we did in our younger high school days. It
is not something that
grown adults do. People will continue to gossip and
behave in this
kind of unhealthy behavior because they can and it makes them
feel bigger.
While
they are behaving like children, we as responsible adults must
find ways to cope with the
gossip and move on with our lives. By all means don't
get caught up in their games. Their
comments were noted but not needed. Smile
and remember that we all deal with negative people
and gossip, at one time in
our lives. Some of us have grown up, while others never will. A
wise man
once said "Smart is when you believe only half of what you hear."
About the Author
Rose DesRochers, Canada
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