Author: Rose DesRochers
Most everyone I know has experienced envy at one time or another.
"Some folks rail against other folks, because other folks have what some
folks would be glad of." - Henry Fielding
Envy is an emotion, and it is not always easy to control our emotions. Have you
ever read another writer's work and been jealous that your own writing has not
reached that level or maybe one of your fellow authors has had great success
with their first book and you have not been as successful. It is hard to look at
another's success and not envy it. As writers each of us is capable of seeing
what our own strengths and weakness are.
When I first got word a fellow author sold 1834 copies of her book in a 90 day
period, I secretly envied her. However, at the same time I was happy for her.
She definitely deserved it and worked hard to get there.
Success is an achievement that we must work hard to reach. Some people can not
accept this. They become so obsessed by their envy that they allow it to control
their lives. The envious person will not work towards accomplishing success. In
his own twisted little perspective he believes that he is successful. He
believes that others are envying him. It is when envy, degrades to 'jealous
envy' that it becomes damaging. Jealousy can be a very sad emotion, when from
the depth of envy comes hatred. It is then that the envious person will stop at
nothing to bring down a successful colleague. He will go to great lengths, no
matter how damaging, if it means destroying the good name of his peer.
The jealous person is simply someone who doesn't realize how he is hurting his
own reputation. Beneath this jealous facade is a very insecure individual with
low self esteem. His jealousy turns to hateful malicious acts. He first starts
by criticizing others and then begins spreading false rumors and makes false
allegations to instill doubt into people's minds. As the jealous person becomes
more envious he starts to engage in abusive behavior.
"The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves." ~William
Penn, Some Fruits of Solitude, 1693
Now none of us can say that we have never been jealous of someone. But when you
will go to great lengths to damage another person's reputation then it is time
to seek help.
If someone is envious of you, don't allow yourself to be brought down to their
level of hatred. Be proud of your success.
"Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you
love what you are doing, you will be successful." - Albert Schweitzer
(01/14/1875-1965)About the Author: Rose DesRochers is the founder of Today's Woman
Writing Community
http://www.todays-woman.net, a supportive online writing community for men
and women over 18. Rose is also the founder of Blogger Talk Blog Community
http://www.bloggertalk.net, a friendly fast growing blogging portal,
offering bloggers support, advice, tools, tips and information about blogs and
blogging. Rose DesRochers personal blog can be read at
http://rosedesrochers.todays-woman.net
